Making ExcusesThu, Jan 6th 2005
I have been married for five years (I am 27 & my husband is 30). We have no children. Our marriage has never been good, as my husband is emotionally and verbally abusive and used to be physically abusive. He stopped the physical abuse (I don't really know why) about a year ago. I now want a divorce. I cannot see myself living my entire life having to walk on eggshells and constantly being berated. It was difficult to come to this realization because my father was also very emotionally abusive, and I guess it's just what I'm used to. My dilemma is this: We are both full-time college students (we started late) and have full-time jobs. We have very little, if any, money left after bills are paid. I cannot see a way, financially, for me to move out on my own, get an apartment, etc. My husband will not move. I have asked him to move out before, and he says he will not & for me to move. Do you have any suggestions? Am I just making excuses? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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